About Me

I happen to be alone right now.  And by “alone,” I mean I’m not married and don’t have kids.  At 44 years old, this is an anomaly.  It’s also frowned-upon, pitied, questioned, or envied, depending on the audience.  Being alone has its perks.  But without the focus of a marriage and/or children, it can leave a person to ponder:

What am I supposed to be doing with this life?!?

There aren’t a lot of female role models out there who are older and single and really just focusing on their own lives without looking high and low for a man to complete their life.  (Just look at the movies we have… Eat, Pray, Love, Sex and the City, Bridget Jones Diary, and most recently, Bridesmaids).  Don’t get me wrong; I like these movies but at the end I always find myself scratching my head, wondering:  Would it have been so terrible if she didn’t get the guy?  Can’t she learn to be happy alone?  Isn’t there something else in this great big world that these women can focus on besides getting the guy?

I have a career I really enjoy.  I have the best friends a person could ask for.  And quite honestly I don’t feel ready to “settle down” with marriage and children (even though, pssst… um, you’re too old to have kids!).  I do want to find someone to share my life with, but in the meantime,  I want to commit to something bigger than myself and hopefully make a positive impact on the world.

My passion is Running.  Running has taken me places I never thought I could go (both literally and figuratively).  And if my injuries will cooperate, I’ll be using this passion to fuel a new project that will hopefully grow into something that will become something far bigger than my own little world.

I started this blog to document the journey, connect with other runners, other singles, and other non-singles who just love running and/or want to do something to make the world a better place.   Enjoy!

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  1. Rachael

     /  January 31, 2012

    I just discovered your blog and I clicked on it because of the title. I am a single 40-something woman who runs as well and I am so glad that you are putting something out there for all of us. I have been single for the last 11 years and recently have been struggling with the negative side of this single life, but you have given me a new perspective. Thank you very much.

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  2. Rachael,

    Thanks so much for your comment. There are certainly challenges to being over 40 and single and the constant bombardment of negative stereotyping done by the media, etc. doesn’t help matters. Most of the time, I focus on filling my time with positive things and don’t give much thought to my couple-status. But every once in awhile I find myself feeling crappy about being single and defending myself in conversations about it. I have to really ask myself if it’s me who is really not happy — or if I’m thinking I’m not “supposed” be happy (without a man) because everyone else seems to think I couldn’t possibly be happy alone. I don’t know if that makes sense – but I’m glad you reached out and I’d love to be a support in any way I can. What kind of running do you do? I’m back at it after a long string of injuries. Hope you are doing well!

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  3. As a person who until now has basically never been alone, I am looking forward to chapter 3 with both fear and excitement. I appreciate your point of view.

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    • Bill,
      Learning how to be alone and be okay with being alone is one of the best things that ever happened to me. I know it’s not always easy, but you do have reason to look forward to Chapter 3. Look forward to hearing about your journey.

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  4. Rachael

     /  March 16, 2012

    Pamela, I just realized you responded to my note, thank you! I somehow injured my foot last year and have been back to running for just a few months, and as much as I struggle to get back to my previous ability I am loving just being back. I am just a recreational runner, and am hoping to get into trail running this summer as we have amazing trail systems in the mountains just minutes away from Bozeman. I really appreciate your perspective on single life, as I love it but have those low moments as well and don’t have any single friends who truly understand. And I totally agree with your note to Bill K, learning to live alone has been one of the best things ever to happen to me too. I would love to learn more about your running and am excited to hear about the Beach to Beacon race! Rachael

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  5. Thanks, Rachael! I’m sorry to hear about your foot injury, but I’m glad you’re back running. I continue to battle a nagging chronic foot injury, but am able to run a few times a week, which is fine for now. Keep me posted on how the trail running comes along. We do have some trail running fairly close to where I am (Boston), but I’m so close to the Charles River (which has beautiful paths/trails) that I tend to stick to that. I need to explore the mountains though — maybe you can motivate me. Speaking of motivation…. I’ve been so busy I haven’t posted on here in over a month. I need to get back on it! Keep me posted on how things are with you!

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